Interactive Tool
Autonomy Ladder
Delegation has rungs, and 'help' that takes over the decisions is not always relief. The skill is choosing the rung per task, per day — and saying it out loud so nobody has to guess.
What this is for: Deciding how much of each task someone else carries, and how much say stays with you.
The rungs
My tasks, per rung
One or two examples at the rungs that fit your life. The rung can change daily — that's allowed.
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The sentence that holds the middle
The thank
The say, kept
Choose what fits from each group — your message builds itself below. There is no single correct version.
If a rung gets climbed without asking
Kind, and still a correction — the rebalancing sentence.
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What you've put together
Your choices stay on this page — nothing is saved or sent.
The ladder, chosen per task — with the sentence that keeps help accepted and control kept in the same breath.
Nothing chosen yet — that's fine. Use only what helps today.
On the worst days, the top rungs are the mercy. On better days, the lower rungs keep you you. Both are the system working — the skill is just saying which one today needs.
A clean, keep-close version — read it here, or screenshot the page to have it on your phone.