Interactive Tool
Boundary Map
A private page of your recurring limits, written before the day you need them. Deciding which rung of firmness a situation deserves — calmly, in advance — keeps the delivery short and the cost low.
What this is for: Having your recurring boundaries set in writing, so they hold without being re-decided mid-conversation.
The person or situation
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The kind of boundary
The rung it deserves
The line you'll use
One sentence, written here while rested. Information, not justification.
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If it gets pushed back
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What you've put together
Your choices stay on this page — nothing is saved or sent.
One boundary, mapped: the kind, the rung, the sentence — decided in advance rather than climbed in the moment.
Nothing chosen yet — that's fine. Use only what helps today.
A boundary is information, not an argument. Because yours is based on capacity — on fact — it doesn't need defending, and repeating it calmly is accuracy, not rudeness.
A clean, keep-close version — read it here, or screenshot the page to have it on your phone.