One-Page View
My Support Menu
One visible list that turns 'anything you need' into something real a helper can choose from.
A keep-close version. Read it here, or screenshot this page to have it on your phone — print and PDF copies will appear once final files are attached.
Most failed help is unspecified help. This builds the concrete list — the things that actually help, grouped by kind, with an explicit 'please don't' section that's as useful as the yes-list.
Practical help — things people can do
- Bin out on Tuesday
- Milk and basics when they're shopping
- A lift to the appointment
- A meal left at the door
- Prescription pickup
- An admin hour — forms, calls, letters
- Dog walking / pet care
- The school run on hard weeks
Emotional support — things people can be
- A weekly text that expects no reply
- Listening without fixing
- Sitting with the hard stuff without making it lighter
- Believing without requiring proof
Presence — company that asks nothing
- Company in the same room, no conversation required
- A short, quiet visit — an hour, no hosting
- Watching something together, phones allowed
Informational — things people can know
- The person who knows the benefits system
- The person who's researched this illness and doesn't push cures
- The person who can hold medical questions with me
Please don't
The section helpers thank you for — it removes the guesswork.
The don't-list
e.g. Surprise visits; cures and supplements; asking what I've tried; phoning when texting works
Where the menu lives
Its visible home
e.g. Fridge card + the shared note with Anna
The menu protects both directions: helpers get certainty instead of guesswork, and you get the shape of help held without asking fresh each time.