Interactive Tool
Guilt Audit
Guilt has two kinds, and they want opposite responses. One points at something you can do. The other is an old rule firing, pointing at nothing. This sorts yours — and the sorting reliably shows that most chronic-illness guilt is the second kind.
What this is for: Separating useful guilt (which closes when its task is done) from conditioned guilt (which closes when it's seen clearly).
The guilts that come round
Write-in-a-word territory — tick the ones that live here, and add your own.
Which ones point at something?
Useful guilt points at an action — a repair to make, a message to send, a capacity change to consider. If there's a clear 'next thing', it belongs here.
Which ones are old rules firing?
Firing regardless of anything you did — for resting, for needing, for existing at less than full capacity.
For the useful kind: the thing it points at
You can leave this blank.
For the conditioned kind: the recognition
You cannot obey your way out of it. You can only see it clearly and stop treating it as evidence.
You can leave this blank.
What you've put together
Your choices stay on this page — nothing is saved or sent.
Your guilt, sorted into the two kinds: the useful few, closed by action — and the conditioned many, recognised as rules rather than evidence.
Nothing chosen yet — that's fine. Use only what helps today.
Seeing conditioned guilt listed for what it is doesn't delete it — but it changes its weight, from evidence against you to weather passing through.
A clean, keep-close version — read it here, or screenshot the page to have it on your phone.